Sometimes i wonder, what is the best way to talk to the man of your life? Is it keeping quiet even when you want to ask a lot of questions? Or it is waiting for him to talk?
Literature suggests a lot, but then does it apply to all kind of man-specie? Is it true to woman-specie as well? Can reading cope up with all that is going on in a person's brain? Can we really provide answers to all that we are looking for? Who's going to give us the answer?
Anyhow, moderation i think is the answer to all these swirling questions in my mind right now... Moderation and timing as well--- from both parties of course.
One just have to remember, no communication would ever happen if the both ends do not put their heart and mind on the matter.
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Monday, November 9, 2009
Wednesday, October 7, 2009
Will you listen?
Texting or sending messages through SMS had been in the Philippines since time immemorial. At times it is irritating especially when people insensitively put you on these "Send to many" list, then send you messages which are far-fetched. But the, there are a lot of benefits taken from this "send to many" lists... Here is one text message my sister, Marvi had sent me:
Loving someone must really be not as easy as most teeners imagine it. As it consists of very simple principles yet these principles require so much humbleness and love.
Ten Ways to Love People
(True and Biblical)
1. Listen without interrupting (Prov1:13)
This means putting your heart and mind and your whole being in the process of conversation. It also means cutting the thoughts that would like to slip out of your mouth or the solution that might be the answer to a problem shared for example. It simply means keeping quiet and observant no matter how much you wanted to voice out your comments.
2. Speak without accusing ( James 1:19)
This means swallowing the pride and making your point straight while making certain the other person knows it is the act that you do not approve and not the person itself. It means asking open-ended questions and making the person know you would believe whatever he or she say, only that you just wanted to hear it straight from him or her.
3. Give without sparing (Prov21:26)
To give is not to keep anything. It means putting your heart on the item itself. As Mother Teresa puts it, it hurts the giver when she/he gives but then it is giving when amidst the pain happiness is felt more.
4. Pray without ceasing ( Collossians1:9)
The answer to every prayer is sent everyday, only we need to recognize. If we do not recognize right away, we should intensify our prayers a,d if we already have recognized we should intensify it even more. It is also a way of saying to PRAY is to BELIEVE you already have received it.
5. Answer without arguing (Prov17:1)
This means to answer questions without being defensive. It is putting in mind that the person is simply asking because he/she is concerned about you. As the Bible puts it, gentle words drive away anger.
6. Share without pretending (Ephesians4:15)
This statement simply means, enjoying the act of sharing or opening your self to different possibilities with your partner.
7. Enjoy without complaint (Philippians2:14)
This means putting your whole self in the activity knowing that "time" really belongs to your partner or friend.
8. Trust without wavering (Corinthians13:7)
This means believing your partner will always be true and loyal to you. That no matter what people say, it is his/her word versus them, and that it is knowing that his/her word weighs heavier than anyone around you.
9. Forgive without punishing (Colossians3:13)
When we say "It's alright" it means, we are not thinking of getting even. Our "it's alright" must be an equivalent to "let us both learn from it" and let us both grow from the experience.
*** if you say you are sorry, mean it. try to avoid doing the same mishap again. it is very important, our partner feels secured by seeing our effort to be a better person for our self and our loved ones.***
10. Promise without forgetting (Prov13:12)
this means keeping your words and making certain you fulfill whatever you say to your partner. It is another way of saying, never forget to REMEMBER.
Loving our self is the best gift we can give both to our self and the people who matter to us. As in loving ourselves, it radiates and it is seen and understood by the way we deal with people. Loving means listening and trusting! It is a beautiful world especially when shared with special someone. So why wait for the morrow when loving could begin NOW. Let us listen and let our ears eyes says aloud I LOVE YOU
Loving someone must really be not as easy as most teeners imagine it. As it consists of very simple principles yet these principles require so much humbleness and love.
Ten Ways to Love People
(True and Biblical)
1. Listen without interrupting (Prov1:13)
This means putting your heart and mind and your whole being in the process of conversation. It also means cutting the thoughts that would like to slip out of your mouth or the solution that might be the answer to a problem shared for example. It simply means keeping quiet and observant no matter how much you wanted to voice out your comments.
2. Speak without accusing ( James 1:19)
This means swallowing the pride and making your point straight while making certain the other person knows it is the act that you do not approve and not the person itself. It means asking open-ended questions and making the person know you would believe whatever he or she say, only that you just wanted to hear it straight from him or her.
3. Give without sparing (Prov21:26)
To give is not to keep anything. It means putting your heart on the item itself. As Mother Teresa puts it, it hurts the giver when she/he gives but then it is giving when amidst the pain happiness is felt more.
4. Pray without ceasing ( Collossians1:9)
The answer to every prayer is sent everyday, only we need to recognize. If we do not recognize right away, we should intensify our prayers a,d if we already have recognized we should intensify it even more. It is also a way of saying to PRAY is to BELIEVE you already have received it.
5. Answer without arguing (Prov17:1)
This means to answer questions without being defensive. It is putting in mind that the person is simply asking because he/she is concerned about you. As the Bible puts it, gentle words drive away anger.
6. Share without pretending (Ephesians4:15)
This statement simply means, enjoying the act of sharing or opening your self to different possibilities with your partner.
7. Enjoy without complaint (Philippians2:14)
This means putting your whole self in the activity knowing that "time" really belongs to your partner or friend.
8. Trust without wavering (Corinthians13:7)
This means believing your partner will always be true and loyal to you. That no matter what people say, it is his/her word versus them, and that it is knowing that his/her word weighs heavier than anyone around you.
9. Forgive without punishing (Colossians3:13)
When we say "It's alright" it means, we are not thinking of getting even. Our "it's alright" must be an equivalent to "let us both learn from it" and let us both grow from the experience.
*** if you say you are sorry, mean it. try to avoid doing the same mishap again. it is very important, our partner feels secured by seeing our effort to be a better person for our self and our loved ones.***
10. Promise without forgetting (Prov13:12)
this means keeping your words and making certain you fulfill whatever you say to your partner. It is another way of saying, never forget to REMEMBER.
Loving our self is the best gift we can give both to our self and the people who matter to us. As in loving ourselves, it radiates and it is seen and understood by the way we deal with people. Loving means listening and trusting! It is a beautiful world especially when shared with special someone. So why wait for the morrow when loving could begin NOW. Let us listen and let our ears eyes says aloud I LOVE YOU
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