Tips on Men III

1. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

2. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you speak up.

3. Like from the show Sex and the City, if he doesn’t call, he just isn’t that interested.

4. Be honest and upfront.

5. Know when to cut the cord, don’t be strung along.

6. Don’t fall for the “I’m confuse role”. Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don’t wait for him, move on).\

7. If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just his mom).

8. There’s more than physical abuse, there’s emotional and mental abuse. If he causes any of them… flee.

9. You cannot change a man’s behaviors. Change comes from within.

10. Don’t let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow himself—double-standard.

Tips on Men II

Here is the next ten of the 45-item list pertaining men. I hope women will find these tips useful in their ever-challenging game of wit and heart with the men of their choice! Good luck!

1. Don’t settle.

2. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

3. If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship—take that as a BIG sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be with a man like that?

4. Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

5. Honorable men take care of their business and aren’t involved in a whole lot of mess.

6. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

7. There’s only one ‘reason’ a man dumps you; he doesn’t want you.

8. Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

9. You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.

10. Always put yourself and your happiness first.

The next 10 tips are coming out soon... see you then!

Hector and Andromache (Iliad)

The love of Hector and Andromache is exemplary.It is a love that is both tested by time and space (the proximity of lovers who are very near each other yet thousand miles separated due to their duties in their country, Troy).It would have been so difficult to see a loved one fight for dear life and it might be so painful to fight for dear life while knowing your loved one is seeing your defeat. A haiku will be a good salutation to a love that is so true.